Thursday, October 2, 2008

How NOT to Rape Someone

Don’t assume that a person wants to have sex.

Understand and respect that all people have their own
boundaries (and the only way to know them is to ASK!)

Be aware that alcohol and other drugs are not an excuse to
ignore cues from your partner.

Know that a person is incapable of consent if intoxicated—
and penetration without consent is rape.

Appreciate a well-crafted outfit without assuming that the person wearing it wants to have sex with you.

Enjoy flirting as a way to hone your wit, without assuming the person wants to have sex with you.

Don’t assume that some sexual activity, or past activity, means a person wants to have sex with you now.

Always provide opportunity for your partner to say “no” and respect their answer—even if it’s not what you were hoping for.

If you feel like someone’s sending mixed messages—ask them.

It’s ok to want to have sex, it is not ok to expect it.