Tuesday, October 7, 2008


Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us. – Andrea Dworkin

CWAR: Rape violently reflects the sexism in a society where power is unequally distributed between women and men, black and white, poor and rich…In rape, the woman is not a sexual being but a vulnerable piece of public property; the man does not violate society’s norms so much as take them to a logical conclusion.

"people will be less likely to use sex or sexuality as a weapon against
others in a world that respects one's sexuality as part of one's humanity."

“if you’re the exception that proves the rule, and the rule is that women are inferior, you haven’t made any progress.

I think it’s funny that people are always saying that our culture is oversexualized, because I think we’re totally undersexualized. All we are is overcommercialized.

When people talk about female empowerment, what they usually mean is women accepting happily, or if not happily at least smilingly, where we’re at. A sexually liberated woman right now is a woman who looks at Maxim and doesn’t feel bummed out by it.

If we’re going to have sexual role models, it should be the women who enjoy sex the most, not the women who get paid the most to enact it.” – Ariel Levy

“Rape is not an isolated act that can be rooted out from patriarchy without ending patriarchy itself. The same men and power structure who victimize women are engaged in the act of raping Vietnam, raping Black people, and the very earth we live upon…No simple reforms can eliminate rape.”

"I have never been free of the fear of Rape. From a very early age I, like most women, have thought of rape as a part of my natural environment – something to be feared and prayed against like fire or lightening…

Rape is an act of aggression in which the victim is denied her self-determination. It is an act of violence, which, if not actually followed by beatings or murder, nevertheless always carries with it the threat of death. And finally, rape is a form of mass terrorism, for the victims of rape are chosen indiscriminately, but the propagandists for male supremacy broadcast that it is women who cause rape by being unchaste or in the wrong place at the wrong time – in essence, by behaving as though they were free." Susan Griffin “Rape – The All-American Crime” 1971

Thursday, October 2, 2008

How NOT to Rape Someone

Don’t assume that a person wants to have sex.

Understand and respect that all people have their own
boundaries (and the only way to know them is to ASK!)

Be aware that alcohol and other drugs are not an excuse to
ignore cues from your partner.

Know that a person is incapable of consent if intoxicated—
and penetration without consent is rape.

Appreciate a well-crafted outfit without assuming that the person wearing it wants to have sex with you.

Enjoy flirting as a way to hone your wit, without assuming the person wants to have sex with you.

Don’t assume that some sexual activity, or past activity, means a person wants to have sex with you now.

Always provide opportunity for your partner to say “no” and respect their answer—even if it’s not what you were hoping for.

If you feel like someone’s sending mixed messages—ask them.

It’s ok to want to have sex, it is not ok to expect it.