Thursday, August 9, 2007

Pyramid of Abuse

While in this instance there was not evidence of sexual assault, relationship violence - and murder - is just the next step in the pyramid of violence against women.

This story is pretty straight forward, her boyfriend killed her and then "tried" to kill himself (interesting that he was successful with one and not the other). It should illuminate the Rape culture that allows men to think that violence and murder are acceptable (necessary?) behaviors in "dealing" with "their" women. They can foster this mentality because we live in a world where pushing the boundaries up the pyramid of abuse is rarely challenged until its too late.

People roll their eyes when I start to call out sexist language (or armbands) but they exist on a continuum and allow for violence to progress. It is our responsibility to be intolerant from beginning to end, not wait until a woman is dead.

PYRAMID OF ABUSE

12. MURDER

11. RAPE/SEXUAL ASSAULT

10. PHYSICAL ABUSE
Hitting, punching, slapping, burning, pushing, pinching

9. VERBAL ABUSE
Name calling, yelling, threats, verbal intimidation

8. VICTIMIZATION
She deserved it, it was her fault, victim blaming, she should have known better, why was she walking alone at night?

7. .76
wage gap

6. GLASS CEILING
Females as workers/secretaries/managers; not CEOs

5. TITLE IX/EDUCATION
Lesser facilities/equipment, unequal media coverage, double standards, no equal access to sports or education

4. TRADITIONAL ROLES
Women as secretary/man as boss, woman at home/man at work, woman as domestic/nurse/teacher/ man as CEO

3. OBJECTIFICATION
Magazines, TV, showing body parts only, scantily dressed

2. LANGUAGE
Bitch, ho, slut, stupid, over-emotional, chick, broad

1. JOKES
Saturday Night Live, dumb blondes, etc.