Thursday, December 13, 2007

Lusty Linda says "Ow"

Apparently there's more than one woman-hating pencil product out there. First there was the headless doggie-style sharpener, and now Shakes shows us this: Lusty Linda the pen holder.

You'll note from the packaging that Lusty Linda can utter "8 lusty sayings," which fall into one of two categories—"good mood" or "bad mood," controlled by the click of a switch. Says one site (screen cap) that sells Lusty Linda, "too bad all women did not have such a switch." Ho ho ho!

Her "bad mood" sayings include "Ow," "Help, Help!" and "Get out you, you dirty old man." You know, because rape is hilarious.

Recently "men's rights activists" scoffed at the idea that we were offended by the pencil sharpener, which blogger Glenn Sacks wrote "depicts a conventional, common sex act which women enjoy." (What woman enjoys fucking without her head, I don't know.) I wonder if they'll find more excuses as to how "Help!" and "Ow!" are actually cries of unabashed pleasure.

Cara puts it well:

This promotes rape. If you buy one of these things, you are promoting rape. If you laugh at one of these things, you are promoting rape. If you don’t laugh but still think that it’s a harmless joke, you are promoting rape. If one of your friends has one, or thinks it’s funny, and you don’t say anything about it, you are promoting rape.

Via How many more times do we have to say it? Rape is not funny.


Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Thoughts on porn

It hurts.

It hurts to know that no matter who you are as a woman you can be reduced to a thing to be penetrated, and that men will buy movies about that, and that in many of those movies your humiliation will be the central theme. It hurts to know that so much of the pornography that men are buying fuses sexual desire with cruelty.

It hurts women, and men like it, and it hurts just to know that.

From Alternet's article on Robert Jensen's book Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity.

We sit quietly, until one of them says, "That wasn't fair."

I know that it wasn't fair. What I had told them was true, and they had asked me to tell them. But it wasn't fair to push it. If I were them, if I were a woman, I wouldn't want to know that. Life is difficult enough without knowing things like that, without having to face that one lives in a society in which no matter who you are -- as an individual, as a person with hopes and dreams, with strengths and weaknesses -- you are something to be fucked and laughed at and left on the side of the road by men. Because you are a woman.

Pornography forces women to face up to how men see them.

Blog debate in response to the previous article.

By and large, what drives women being paid
to have themselves used sexually is men.

Monday, December 10, 2007

"Gee, I wonder why women get Raped?"

American Apparel: Anti-sweatshop, Anti-woman.

"They always go free, the ones with the choice."

The best video I've seen on international Prostitution and Trafficking of women.

Thursday, December 6, 2007

Dateline Predatory Drug Experiment

Dateline experiment in Predatory Drugs (I LOATHE "date rape"). This makes me NEVER want to go to a bar. Having been drugged - dispite all the "proper precautions" - I absolutely resent sharing living space with guys who are not only not appauled, but enthusiastic about drugging women to Rape them. Even more, I resent the victim blaming implications that I hear every day about women being "stupid" drinking too much, accepting drinks, leaving drinks unattended. It is not being intoxicated that makes me vulnerable when I go out. It is being a woman and there is nothing I can do to change that.

Thursday, November 1, 2007

Pleasure and Danger

The tension between sexual pleasure and sexual danger is a powerful one in women’s lives. Sexuality is simultaneously a domain of restriction, repression, and danger as well as a domain of exploration, pleasure, and agency. To focus only on pleasure and gratification ignores the patriarchal structure in which women act, yet to speak only of sexual violence and oppression ignores women’s experience with sexual agency and choice and unwittingly increases the sexual terror and despair in which women live. [Vance, Carole S. (1984). Pleasure and Danger: Towards a Politics of Sexuality. In Carole S. Vance, (ed.) Pleasure and Danger: Exploring Female Sexuality. Boston: Routledge & Kegan Paul. (p. 1)]

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

There's no such thing as 'Gray Rape"

I was surprisingly impressed with this article from the Times. That is until I got to the comments. I'm constantly struck by people who absolutely do not understand what they're talking about. While ignorance may be rampant, when it comes to Rape, it's also dangerous. I come to work every day hoping that I can somehow figure out a way to reach these people into an enlightened consciousness. Yesterday, fortunately, I had a beacon of hope:

I was at a high school talking about Sexual Violence. We were discussing the fact that the majority of perpetrators of SV against not only women, but male victims as well, were men. Not just men, but heterosexual men. Illustrating that it's not about sex, it's about power, control, entitlement and the way that we have constructed masculinity. My co-facilitator made the suggestion that in the instance of hetero-identified men Raping gay-identified men could in fact be considered a hate crime. A boy in the class pipped up "isn't every Rape a hate crime?" and I remembered why I do this work.

Monday, October 1, 2007

Rap musician Master P apologized in front of a congressional panel on Tuesday for the misogynist lyrics that have laced his platinum-selling albums. "I want to apologize to all the women out there. I was honestly wrong," he said, adding that being a father adjusted his attitude. The hearings were arranged after radio host Don Imus was fired for slurring black women in a manner that some felt was influenced by hip-hop.

Monday, September 24, 2007

Why Aren't We Shocked?

The New York Times
October 16, 2006
By Bob Herbert, Op-Ed Columnist

"Who needs a brain when you have these?"

—message on an Abercrombie & Fitch T-shirt for young women

In the recent shootings at an Amish schoolhouse in rural Pennsylvania and a large public high school in Colorado, the killers went out of their way to separate the girls from the boys, and then deliberately attacked only the girls.

Ten girls were shot and five killed at the Amish school. One girl was killed and a number of others were molested in the Colorado attack.

In the widespread coverage that followed these crimes, very little was made of the fact that only girls were targeted. Imagine if a gunman had gone into a school, separated the kids up on the basis of race or religion, and then shot only the black kids. Or only the white kids. Or only the Jews.

There would have been thunderous outrage. The country would have first recoiled in horror, and then mobilized in an effort to eradicate that kind of murderous bigotry. There would have been calls for action and reflection. And the attack would have been seen for what it really was: a hate crime.

None of that occurred because these were just girls, and we have become so accustomed to living in a society saturated with misogyny that violence against females is more or less to be expected. Stories about the rape, murder and mutilation of women and girls are staples of the news, as familiar to us as weather forecasts. The startling aspect of the Pennsylvania attack was that this terrible thing happened at a school in Amish country, not that it happened to girls.

The disrespectful, degrading, contemptuous treatment of women is so pervasive and so mainstream that it has just about lost its ability to shock. Guys at sporting events and other public venues have shown no qualms about raising an insistent chant to nearby women to show their breasts. An ad for a major long-distance telephone carrier shows three apparently naked women holding a billing statement from a competitor. The text asks, "When was the last time you got screwed?"

An ad for Clinique moisturizing lotion shows a woman's face with the lotion spattered across it to simulate the climactic shot of a porn video.

We have a problem. Staggering amounts of violence are unleashed on women every day, and there is no escaping the fact that in the most sensational stories, large segments of the population are titillated by that violence. We�ve been watching the sexualized image of the murdered 6–year–old JonBenet Ramsey for 10 years. JonBenet is dead. Her mother is dead. And we�re still watching the video of this poor child prancing in lipstick and high heels.

What have we learned since then? That there's big money to be made from thongs, spandex tops and sexy makeovers for little girls. In a misogynistic culture, it's never too early to drill into the minds of girls that what really matters is their appearance and their ability to please men sexually.

A girl or woman is sexually assaulted every couple of minutes or so in the U.S. The number of seriously battered wives and girlfriends is far beyond the ability of any agency to count. We're all implicated in this carnage because the relentless violence against women and girls is linked at its core to the wider society's casual willingness to dehumanize women and girls, to see them first and foremost as sexual vessels—objects—and never, ever as the equals of men.

"Once you dehumanize somebody, everything is possible," said Taina Bien-Aim�, executive director of the women's advocacy group Equality Now.

That was never clearer than in some of the extreme forms of pornography that have spread like nuclear waste across mainstream America. Forget the embarrassed, inhibited raincoat crowd of the old days. Now Mr. Solid Citizen can come home, log on to this $7 billion mega-industry and get his kicks watching real women being beaten and sexually assaulted on Web sites with names like "Ravished Bride" and "Rough Sex—Where Whores Get Owned."

Then, of course, there's gangsta rap, and the video games where the players themselves get to maul and molest women, the rise of pimp culture (the Academy Award–winning song this year was "It's Hard Out Here for a Pimp"), and on and on.

You're deluded if you think this is all about fun and games. It's all part of a devastating continuum of misogyny that at its farthest extreme touches down in places like the one–room Amish schoolhouse in normally quiet Nickel Mines, Pa.

Copyright © 2006 The New York Times

Thursday, September 13, 2007

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

Reading List

I've been grossly bereft of time to blog, however I wanted to post these recent posts lest they go unnoticed, unappreciated, un-considered.

Pornographication extends itself to morning coffee. While you may have seen the original news blitz back in January, the normalization in such a short amount of time is worth noting. Also the callus response to attempts at moral and personal integrity. Apparently integrity is now misconstrued as an annoyance rather than a virtue.

A sickening example of why bystander education should be mandatory. You are a bystander. Always. What you choose do as such has massive implications in the world.

Gray Rape doesn't exist. A survivor has the right to define her experience, but the crime remains - Rape by any other name is still Rape. Furthermore, I think that we have a responsibility to our community, to other survivors, and to ourselves not to minimize/sacrifice/concede in order to make those operative in the patriarchy more comfortable.

That's all I can stomach for the night.

Thursday, August 30, 2007

"Pimping Breasts" or "Mammory Philanthropy"

"Free Implants" offers a space for women to submit themselves pornographied so that "benefactors" can view and *hopefully* "donate" to the women's breast augmentation surgery.

Twisty calls the "philanthropy" an example of the "normalization of prostitution" and I have to agree - especially because the owner of the site takes an entire quarter of the women's "donations". As a side note - what's with the language (philanthropy, donation, benefactor) denying the women's true labor in creating the porn material? By one woman's account, it ends up being about $10/hr - less than I made working retail. So really, there is no generosity, there's barely a wage for labor rendered. Way to completely erase women's work. I'm also considering the terms "prostitution" and "pornography" in regards to this story. I'm not sure there's much of a difference here.

Thursday, August 9, 2007

Pyramid of Abuse

While in this instance there was not evidence of sexual assault, relationship violence - and murder - is just the next step in the pyramid of violence against women.

This story is pretty straight forward, her boyfriend killed her and then "tried" to kill himself (interesting that he was successful with one and not the other). It should illuminate the Rape culture that allows men to think that violence and murder are acceptable (necessary?) behaviors in "dealing" with "their" women. They can foster this mentality because we live in a world where pushing the boundaries up the pyramid of abuse is rarely challenged until its too late.

People roll their eyes when I start to call out sexist language (or armbands) but they exist on a continuum and allow for violence to progress. It is our responsibility to be intolerant from beginning to end, not wait until a woman is dead.




Hitting, punching, slapping, burning, pushing, pinching

Name calling, yelling, threats, verbal intimidation

She deserved it, it was her fault, victim blaming, she should have known better, why was she walking alone at night?

7. .76
wage gap

Females as workers/secretaries/managers; not CEOs

Lesser facilities/equipment, unequal media coverage, double standards, no equal access to sports or education

Women as secretary/man as boss, woman at home/man at work, woman as domestic/nurse/teacher/ man as CEO

Magazines, TV, showing body parts only, scantily dressed

Bitch, ho, slut, stupid, over-emotional, chick, broad

Saturday Night Live, dumb blondes, etc.

Tuesday, August 7, 2007

Girly = shameful

BBC reports that Thai police are being forced to wear pink, girly armbands as punishment for minor infractions as a way to shame them into submission. Girly because female consists of shame and submission in a Rape culture. When I brought this up in my sociology class on Class, Power and Social Change, I was told by the professor that it worked because no boy wants to be a girl because they are boys, not because girls and the feminine are degraded and devalued perpetually by societies which thrive on the oppression of women through gender tension. Another example of being told "don't be such a girl" and all of the inherent value judgment that women are lesser, being woman is shameful, and one should strive always to avoid such a label. He told me I couldn't suck the fun out of everything. (In case you haven't heard, feminists have no humor.)

Airman Raped herself. Three times.

Seriously. Even worse, with Judges like this presiding in our "justice" system.

Wednesday, August 1, 2007

Dogfighting or Rape?

"It's really a sad day in this country when somehow ... Michael Vick would have been better off raping a woman if you look at the outcry of what happened," Zeise said. "Had he done that, he probably would have been suspended for four games and he'd be back on the field. But because this has become a political issue, all of a sudden the commissioner has lost his stomach for it."

Sunday, July 29, 2007

Man's Best Friend

CNN's Larry Smith: Dog fighting a worse crime than rape

You're going to love this. In a Nancy Grace segment last night about Atlanta Falcons' Michael Vick and his recent arrest for running a dogfighting ring, CNN sports anchor Larry Smith said that Vick's crimes were worse than rape. Yeah.

The below transcript followed a short clip of Kobe Bryant proclaiming his innocence, which Grace used to make a point about how Vick should speak up in the media:

SMITH: Yes, well, that's -- he's been in a lot of trouble lately, when you think about all the other incidents, and this is just the worst one of all. Keep in mind, too, that while Kobe Bryant is a situation we can sort of compare this to, this really is much worse. Not only can you argue that the crimes are much worse in terms of, you know, killing dogs and that kind of thing, but as an NFL starting quarterback, you are the most visible face in that city. I`ve said all along, in fact, you know, if you go through and, you know, very quickly name 10 mayors of major cities in the country...

GRACE: Larry Smith, did I just hear you say...

SMITH: ... you could have a harder time doing that...

GRACE: ... mistreatment of...

SMITH: ... than naming 10 NFL starting quarterbacks.

GRACE: Did I just hear Larry Smith, CNN sports correspondent and anchor, state that crimes on a dog are much worse than crimes on a woman? Did I hear that?

I don't know, Nancy. But I certainly fucking heard it. Tell CNN what you think here.

via Feministing

Sunday, July 22, 2007

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

"Our lives are not fodder for compromise."

"I know the art and theater of politics. There are times when you have to position yourself just to be heard. But there are also issues that are so important... that to try and position yourself out of it is to lay down the mantle of leadership. Women’s lives are at stake, and our lives are not fodder for compromise.”

Elizabeth Edwards addressing Planned Parenthood

via The American Prospect (Dana Goldstein also has recaps of Clinton and Obama's addresses at the same forum.)

Monday, July 16, 2007

Nebraska Rape Mistrial

No wonder only 98% of Rape survivors ever see their attacker convicted. Would you want to survive this after surviving an attack?

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Relationship Rape

An old Dan Savage column that I think is really important. Rape comes in all different forms, not all are savage, not all are emotionally scarring, not all are called out as Rape. It still is.

Q: This isn't the sort of question you usually answer, but I hope you will consider it anyway.

I was in a good relationship with a guy, Enis for naming's sake, for three years. About a year ago, Enis asked me if we could have anal sex. I might lose your sympathy here, but I have no interest in anal sex at all. I had a traumatic experience with anal sex that resulted in some permanent damage; I cannot do it without a lot of pain.
The Jeffersonian

I told Enis no and that I was surprised he asked, given my past. I offered to do him, if that was what he was looking for. He refused, telling me he wasn't gay. He asked me to reconsider a few more times, but I always told him no. Enis even attempted to just "add it in" while we were having sex once. It fucking hurt, and I flipped out on him. I told him I wasn't going to change my mind, and if he had to have anal sex then he could have it with someone else, giving him an out if it mattered that much to him.

A month ago, we were making love. I was restrained to the bed; we did this all the time. The next thing I knew, he's fingering my anus. I told him to stop, but he wouldn't. He took his time, stretching and lubing. I was screaming and crying for him to stop the whole time. I won't get into how much it hurt, but suffice it to say, I nearly passed out from blood loss as a result of his tearing open old scars. He freaked out when he saw the amount of blood on the bed and called 911. (This was after he'd had an orgasm). I spent a week in the hospital and ended up with 30 stitches to rerepair the damage. I'm still in a lot of pain.

I refused to see him while I was in the hospital. I didn't take his calls. I gave the flowers he sent to other patients. He utterly and completely betrayed my trust. I trusted him with my safety when I let him restrain me, and he took advantage and hurt me. I want nothing to do with him ever again. I've been told he's been on suicide watch at the local hospital several times since the incident. His friends and family tell me he's sorry, that he didn't mean to hurt me, and that I should forgive him. I realize that he may have not intended to hurt me; he did use lubrication, and attempted to open me up a bit first. If he had meant to hurt me then he would have just shoved his way in. But the fact is, I said no.

So, my question to you: Do I forgive him or let him wallow in guilt? I'm not traumatized (emotionally, anyway), though of course my heart is broken, and I know I'll move on. I am not pursuing legal action. He and his family paid for my medical bills and other expenses.

Thank you for your time. —No Cute Acronym

A: Forgive him? Your ex wants you to forgive him? His friends and family are pestering you about forgiving him?

Good fucking god.

Your ex should get down on his knees twice a day and thank his lucky fucking stars that you didn't press charges. He raped you — you know that, right? The word "rape" doesn't appear anywhere in your letter, NCA, which I hope isn't a sign that you see this "incident" as anything other than a full-blown sexual assault. So what if Enis used lube? So what if he took his time? Some rapists use condoms and say "please" and "thank you." They're still rapists.

And, I'm sorry, but why aren't you pressing charges?

On to Enis: So your ex feels awful about this. The poor little douche feels so very, very terrible that he's had to be hospitalized. Why, he's even contemplated suicide. Good. He should feel terrible. Forever. Which is why I hereby forbid you to forgive Enis. Ever. Make the mistake of forgiving this speck of shit, NCA, and 10 minutes later a little voice in the back of his head would start telling him that this rape wasn't that big a deal — after all, the woman he tied up, anally raped and landed in the hospital didn't press charges — she even forgave him. How bad could it really have been? No reason he shouldn't pull this same stunt with his next girlfriend. ...

We can't have that, NCA, so Enis's family and friends will just have to go fuck themselves. And if you find yourself wavering, if you find yourself tempted to forgive him, consider this: Enis is attempting to bully you into forgiving him just as he attempted to bully you into anal sex. But since he can't tie you to a bed and fuck forgiveness from you, he's using the threat of suicide to get what he wants. Repeat after me, NCA: Enis had no right to fuck with your ass then, and he has no right to fuck with your head now.

Finally, I'm sorry you felt I might not sympathize with you — a woman brutalized by someone she thought she could trust — due to your lack of interest in anal sex. No one has to "do" anal sex to win my sympathy. I'm a fan, as everyone knows, but anal sex isn't a litmus test. In addition to feeling sympathy for you, NCA, I sincerely hope that you weren't emotionally traumatized by this experience, as you claim. It would be a good idea, however, to see a counselor once or twice just to make sure.

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Accidental Rape

I've spent the last 2 days at a conference put on by CALCASA and the US Dept of Justice on sexual assault programs on campuses. It was amazing, I can't rave about it enough and I've come away with lots of things to think about. For now, I'm preoccupied with this:

Can Rape be accidental?

The endnote interactive theater designed to demonstrate possible scenarios of acquaintance Rape on college campuses did a role play where

Two people meet in class, they see each other at parties, start to talk, hang out. They end up studying one night, order pizza, drink some, start fooling around. She starts kissing him, they're wrestling around, tickling. "Stop" is said several times in the context of tickling. The male says that almost every time she said "stop" in a sexual context he did, and she resumed the kissing/tickling/wrestling. He said at the point when they are on his bed, and she takes off his shirt, he assumes this is an affirmative to sexual intercourse. She whispers "stop" once while he's inside of her, then says nothing and he continues, they fall asleep, he calls her a few days later. Then finds out she's accusing him of Rape. It could happen to anyone right? It happens every weekend...

This situation is Rape. She says "stop" to sexual intercourse and he chose not to stop. The point is to show a grey area that may muddle the concept of consent. The fact that there can not be grey area in consent - that nothing besides an explicit affirmation to sexual intercourse constitutes consent is another post.

My conflict comes from this; the workshop I was at directly prior to this skit was on the mindset of a Rapist. The presenter (Sabrina Garcia, who was incredible) very specifically said "Rape is NOT an accident." She maintained that the mindset, justification and entitlement necessary for someone to perpetrate sexual assault needs to be fostered. Rapists know what they are doing, and they know how to use language, social constructs, and specifically Rape myths to minimize their action to anything other than Rape. The fact of the matter is that it is Rape and they are Rapists on purpose.

David Lisak also maintains that while only about 7% of men Rape, those that do are repeat offenders. The "nice guy, didn't know what he was doing" is a myth which allows these men to minimize and continue their behavior. He found that 63% of Rapists are repeat offenders.

I want to believe in the good in people, but at the same time, I believe in my soul that Rape is evil.

Are these mutually exclusive? Is there such a thing as accidental Rape? Does believing in accidental Rape allow us to focus on education (such as the skits) to clear away the confusion? Or does it just perpetuate a myth which allows Rape to continue?

Don't say Rape

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This rating was determined based on the presence of the following words:

* rape (24x)
* sex (16x)
* porn (12x)
* shit (3x)
* shoot (2x)
* sexy (1x)

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Man who raped 10 year-old gets lenient sentence because girl dressed "provocatively"

No, this isn't about the case we reported on several months ago, where a 20 year-old man who raped a 10 year-old off with no jail time because of "his belief that she was over 16." This is a whole new load of bullshit.

Oxford Crown Court heard that [Keith] Fenn raped the girl in a park on 14 October, before an accomplice, Darren Wright, 34, took her home and sexually assaulted her.

Judge Hall said in sentencing he faced a moral dilemma as the fact they had sex within 45 minutes of meeting was an absolute crime.

But he said the girl had dressed provocatively and looked as though she was 16. (Emphasis mine)

Well it's nice to know that the way a 10 year-old dresses has bearing on whether or not she was assaulted. Fucking disgusting.

Monday, June 25, 2007

Baby Killer

This is a baby killer.

An eye for an eye really means a baby for a fetus
Illegal drugs make you kill babies - even when you're not on them
One should not go to jail for killing babies when one has babies that would miss them
The ways to terrorize women into submission are endless.

Thursday, June 21, 2007

One word, sounds like Rape...

Explain to me a trial where the crime is banned from being mentioned. I don't understand how that is supposed to equal justice.

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Sell sex, not safety

“We always find it funny that you can use sex to sell jewelry and cars, but you can’t use sex to sell condoms,” said Carol Carrozza, vice president of marketing for Ansell Healthcare, which makes LifeStyles condoms.

The use of sex in advertising (especially sex equated with submissive, objectified women) absolutely encourages the Rape culture. Commodified sex is used ubiquitously through out western culture and often for things that have nothing to do with actual sex. Suddenly when safe, responsible sex is the selling point, the ads are bared from networks. We are essentially cementing the dis juncture between egalitarian, respectful, safer sex, and the representations that look more like Rape. Also not a coincidence that ads for erectile dysfunction (drugs exclusively for male sexual pleasure) are aired during the Superbowl. Condom ads are fine as long as they focus on HIV and STIs (which infect both men and women). But when the issue is pregnancy - a condition only physically affecting women, it's too racy for TV.

Friday, June 15, 2007

Internet Porn

In holding interviews for the project that birthed this blog, one of the most common themes was a sense that internet porn, in it's unparalleled accessibility and endless depiction of almost any type of sex or violence, was corroding the line of consent. I couldn't articulate what that meant specifically, but I think the blog entry below from Jared Paul does.

Saturday, June 02, 2007

So, I fucked up and looked at internet porn last night.

i hate it and it made me feel gross
a long time ago i came to the conclusion that almost all porn on the internet made me feel sick. I've actually posted about it here before. Through the years i've gotten better at not looking. I've gotten it down to like 2, maybe 3 times a year, but as soon as i fuck up and look, i'm reminded of how sick it makes me.

i believe in Erotica. Where to find Erotica that doesn't make me sick? i dunno. I've got a fantastic imaginaton and never want it bad enough to make an effort to find it. i think we all agree that we all have our different ideas about what we think is acceptable in porn.

the idea of 30-45 year old dudes with money paying young 20 something girls from shitty back grounds to get fucked super graphically for shitty amateur websites makes me wanna kill myself.

not just because i know that a whole slew of surveys show that an extremely high percentage of women working in amateur porn, commercial porn, prostitution, and stripping reported having being sexually assaulted as a youth... not just because a proportionate % only sex-work while under the influence... not just because many of them develop multiple personality disorders as a result, and not just because it's something that'll be with them for ever, that they'll never be able to undo, not just because some of the girls i worked with in Group Homes have gone on to prostitution...

but because, to me, it feels like watching a beating. like when you see an ugly fight or beating in real life or graphic fight scenes on-line... it makes me feel sick in that same way. that same sick adrenaline tension.

like witnessing a molestation.

i scanned around and watched a single clip. And just couldn't get over thinking about how it seemed like an actual beating. I don't think it was what's billed as "violent porn," but the man was much bigger and older than the girl. And it seemed exactly like he was just acting out a fantasy. Like fucking the shit out of your partner without any interaction, like checking to see if they were ok... or tired... or wanted a break... just goin' to town... like she was a doll... like she was a slave... like she was trash... like an overseer doing whatever he wanted with a servant...

and it just felt like that... it felt like he could do anything to her... and it would seemlessly fit into the moment... it felt like a murder could happen. the way he was thrashing her around, like after it was done he could just take out a knife and slit her throat and it would just be part of the show.

it got me thinking about rape. and how thin the line is.

and about how many guys never considered their date rape, rape...
and about how many rapists don't see them selves as rapists...
and whether or not certain rapists prowl and assault women the same way that i look at porn...
like, "i know it's wrong. But i'm fucked up and it's an impulse. It'll never happen again..." And then, a year or two later... he sees an opportunity, AND BAM, it happens again... and he slips away... without the girl's older cousin finding out and murdering him in his apartment... without the cops ever finding him... without any consequence other than his guilt...

And it got me wondering how many of these Amateur porn guys have raped people before... and are now utterly astounded and relieved that although prostitution is illegal, they can pay an attractive 18-22 year old girl from the trailer park or the projects $150 to do almost anything they want to her on video... and it's legal because it's on the internet... and it's not considered prostitution because they are protected by the same laws that protect nudity and sex in Art...

got me wondering how many of these girls go there to find out that their one video shoot didn't go right... and that she won't get paid until they get the footage they want and that might take an extra 3 or 4 sessions...

like if she got really sore and needed a break...
or didn't realize how rough the extra $50 she took for the "Hardcore" shoot was gonna be and wanted to stop...

got me wondering how many times these girls are forced to do shit after the shoots...

got me wondering about what a rapist thinks about...
and it occurred to me for the first time in my life,
that MOST rapists, whether they attempt it or not, probably consider killing their victims at some point during the assault(s)... "oh shit, i never thought i'd take it this far (again?), oh god, if she tells anyone i'm fucked... how did i let this happen?! fuck even just going to jail, i think i might even deserve jail, but if this girl tells and i get caught, then i'll be a Rapist for the rest of my life... my mom will know, my job will know, my wife? kids? family? will know..."

got me wondering if the analogy was sound:

fighting : death
sexual intercourse : birth

and how easily sex can lead to death

got me thinking about getting more involved in sexual assault outreach as a volunteer; i used to have pamphlets for the Trauma Hotline at every Slam and have their Rep's in to speak, but i never volunteered with dropping them off in the community or training to work the phones...

got me thinking about what is acceptable...

got me thinking that i never want to look at porn that makes me sick again...

got me thinking that i should make myself more available...

got me thinking that i've never gotten to know a sex worker...
aside from a few childhood friends that did some stripping,
only online accounts...

my email is if you have had good or bad experiences as a sex worker and for whatever reasons want someone, or me in particular, to talk to about it please feel free to get in touch.

young girls... i don't know why this world hates you so much, but it does.
It acts indifferent, even friendly at times. But in it's secret heart, it wants to conquer you. To humilate you. To subjegate, defile, and degrade you.
It wants to hold you down and hurt till you cry out. It's secret heart says that you want it. That you deserve it. That's it's natural.

I do love my life and i am happy to be alive. I've been lucky enough to miss major trauma and am generally excited by every day. But sometimes i really hate this place. i wish i went out of my way to make people smile more often.

I think his gesture is amazing and want to add my email: for anyone who needs to use it.

Saturday, June 9, 2007

Men Can Stop Rape

Men are the ONLY ones who can stop rape, considering 99.6% of rapes are perpetrated by men.

MCSR the organization, published this press release citing a study that says men WANT to stop Rape. At least that's promising, now all we need is the programs available to get them involved.

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

Sunday, June 3, 2007

Virtual Rape

Rape is when someone takes control of your body without your consent. To me this includes sexual assault, forced pregnancies, and this

Monday, May 28, 2007

The real victims of Rape

Apparently the real victims of Rape are the perpetrators who get away with it. 10 baseball players were disrupted in the middle of their gang Rape of a 17 year old girl who was unconscious and choking on vomit.

"The only consequences so far have been that eight baseball players were suspended, resulting in the cancellation of three games. At least one of the players brought in by the grand jury thinks justice has been served: "From the beginning, I kind of felt like it was a witch hunt and the De Anza players were victims, and not really this girl," pitcher Chris Knopf told the San Jose Mercury News."

There is no witch hunt! The 10 men were caught in the act! And identified by at least 4 women. But of course a man is going to sympathize with the perps - this sort of thing could happen to anyone. Just imagine if you gang Raped someone and were accused, wouldn't you want justice to be served??

How do I live in a world where a 17 year old is found unconscious with a man thrusting in her and 9 men watching and that is considered consensual SEX??? I'm agreeing more and more with Twisty's definition of consent.

Also see Twisty and Feministing's posts on the subject.

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Satire. Funny, and also really creepy.

Sunday, May 13, 2007

Fraud + Rape = Innocent

Boston Globe
Court rules sex through use of fraud is not rape

By Jonathan Saltzman, Globe Staff | May 11, 2007

A Hampden County man who allegedly tricked his brother's girlfriend into having sex with him by impersonating his sibling in the middle of the night cannot be convicted of rape, the state's highest court ruled yesterday in a controversial decision that affirms the court's long-held view that sex obtained through fraud is no crime.

The Supreme Judicial Court unanimously ruled that a judge should have dismissed the rape charge against Alvin Suliveres , 44, of Westfield, because Massachusetts law has for centuries defined rape as sexual intercourse by force and against one's will, and that it is not rape when consent is obtained through fraud.

If the Legislature wants to make sex through fraud qualify as rape, it should follow the lead of several other states -- including Alabama, California, Michigan, and Tennessee -- and change the law, the court said.

Brownlow M. Speer , a state public defender who represented Suliveres in the challenge, praised the ruling. His client, who has been free since his March 2006 trial ended in a hung jury, denies impersonating his brother and maintains that the sex was consensual.

But Wendy J. Murphy , who teaches at the New England School of Law and advocates for victims of violence, condemned the ruling as regressive.

"The message that the court sends today is . . . that a man's ability to obtain sex through fraud with regard to who he is is more important than a woman's fundamental right to control her own body," said Murphy. She added, "It is impossible -- as a matter of fact and law -- to consent to sex with the wrong person."

Justice Judith A. Cowin , one of two women on the court, wrote the ruling.

The case dates to a night in January 2005. The woman was living with her boyfriend, Duane Suliveres , in a basement room of his father's home, according to the defense brief. Alvin Suliveres was also staying at the house.

Duane Suliveres , now 33, was working night shifts, the brief said. At 3 a.m., the woman later told authorities, she was awakened by the sound of the door opening to the dark room and said, "Duane, why are you home so early?" but heard no response. Then, she said, someone she thought was her boyfriend got into bed, removed her clothes, and had sex with her for about 10 minutes.

He got up and opened the door, and she saw that it was Alvin Suliveres, she told authorities.

After Hampden County prosecutors presented their case, Suliveres's trial lawyer asked Superior Court Judge Tina S. Page to acquit his client for lack of evidence, but the judge refused. The case went to the jury, which could not reach a verdict.

Jonathan Saltzman can be reached at
Twisty post on the myth of consent

"Well, what if lack of consent were the default? What if all prospective objects of dudely predation — by whom I mean all women — are a priori considered to have said “no”? What if women, in other words, were seen by the courts to abide in a persistent legal condition of keep-the-fuck-off-me?"

I was starting to worry about this plan for a moment - slipping towards the patriarchal argument that we must not presume guilt - when she hits me with this mind shattering logic:

"I grasp that, technically, the plan criminalizes all male participants in heterosexual sex.

Well, what of it? The set-up now, with the emphasis — in a misogynist world with a misogynist judiciary — on whether or not women “give” consent, is that female participants are all infinitely rapeable, because all some perv has to do is say, “she said yes.” "

WOW! Of course! Here I am worrying about the poor boys and the possibility that one may get caught up, and all along society has been willing to sacrifice the girls in a much more violent, devastating way. And yet my first gut response was to roll merrily along with the status quo, even as I craft my life around fighting it.

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Girls are made of sugar and spice...

Twisy's blog is DEFINITELY an example of girl's constant socialization into Rape Culture. I joke to my friend Monika that girls are socialized to be prostitutes through heterosexual dating expectations, but this isn't really a joke at all...

Kamp Sexbot
Published May 9th, 2007 in Femininity.

I live a pretty vivid inner life, but some things are so sinister, so creepy, so vulgar, that even I couldn’t make’em up. As an example of a real-life horror scenario, I give you the Sugar & Spice Spa Camp for Girls.

That’s right. No archery or horseback riding or canoeing or lanyard-making will interfere with “what girls want to learn.” No s’mores, no ghost stories around the campfire, no make-outs behind the hay barn. Girls ages 12 to 15 will “practice giving manicures, facials, pedicures and basic massage technique.” To enhance their chances of becoming centerfolds, I suppose.

The camp brochure actually alludes to the campers as “femme fatales [sic],” so there can be little doubt that the goal is to prepare them for a career in the titillation business. Check out the Theme Days. Like Diva Day, when — I know it sounds fantastic, but there it is, in black-and-white — “the girls get to sit in a director’s chair…

…and learn what colors match their skin tone.”

Mastery of these oppressive femininity rituals will be “balanced” with yoga and aromatherapy, I’m guessing so that the poor kids can relieve the stress engendered by this wholesale savaging of their sense of self.

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Native Americans

Amnesty International says that Native Americans are twice as likely to be Raped.

Little Beauties

Airing again on VH1 on Thursday April 26th, 2007 3:30pm will be a new episode of the the show Little Beauties: Ultimate Kiddie Queen Showsdown. The website listing a brief summary of the episode and when future ones will air.

Now, you might wonder why I am telling you all this. Well, when I was a teen, I actually competed in some pageants. The ones north of the Mason-Dixon Line are a little different than the ones that will be shown on this particular program, but I think getting a look into the "true" pageant circuit of the South gives you a better understanding of what the industry's really about and how extreme the pageant business has become.

Watching this program you'll be introduced to girls mostly under double-digits. As you watch, make notes on all the things you think might be slightly strange for a 6 year old to be doing. Whether it be the photo-shoots covered in fur and Aqua Net, the Pro-Am modeling competition where coordinated music, costumes and dance moves, including the strategic removal of certain articles of clothing, are judged by adults, the tanning and hour long make-up sessions or the "passion" of the parents for their own "little beauty" to do perfectly, may be a few examples.

Note as you watch that the narrator of the show is actually the most sought after pageant MC in the industry. This show is not making much of an attempt to present an objective representation of pageants. The show clearly shows favor to the industry, giving the impression even more so to both the general audience and those involved in pageants, that this subculture is healthy, normal and has no need for critical examination.

In a country where we are so concerned with perverts, child molesters and censorship, why then is VH1 trying to mainstream this subculture even more by airing it on a regular cable station. Ironically, in the South where most of these events take place is where there is more of a concentration of conservative citizens, but looking at these pageants and the way in which young girls are exploited does not give you the impression that the adults around them are concerned with the conservative values they so proudly stand for. Instead, they dress their daughters in provocative baby-doll glamour and slather them with self-tanner, make-up and hair products. They try there best to make them look as little like themselves as possible, they show them the "right way" to walk, talk, move, dance, behave, dress, etc. From infancy they are told who they are is not good enough, that if they want to win they have to be somebody else. Furthermore, they place them in situations where then they have to be judged by adults who will make the decision on whether or not they are truly "beautiful". Before these girls hit puberty they will have developed opinions on their bodies, behavior and on other girls that will tell them that stigmatized perfection is normal, that conformity is key and that those who don't are the weird ones.

Moreover, this mainstreaming only promotes these ideas to the general public. Also, it only makes the sexualizing of little girls seem more normal. Please watch and let others know. Hearing the response to it from others is the only way to know whether I'm being overly critical or if there is something even more outrageous brewing in out culture.

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

Culture of Skepticism

From Twisty

Speaking of child rapists who freely roam the countryside, have you Brits wondered why it is that every time you turn around lately, some perv in your neighborhood is throwing an acquittal party?

Because rape convictions in the UK have plummeted to Taliban-level depths, that’s why! They’ve sunk from a 1977 high of 32% to a low of just 5.6% in 2007. Why? Hold on to your hats. It’s because nobody believes the women.

That’s right. According to The Guardian, when it comes to men brutally assaulting women, there festers in Britain a certain “culture of scepticism.”* Supporters of women’s continued oppression have successfully countered small gains in the number of rapes reported by propagating the notion that women are both congenitally insatiable and naturally perfidious. Because of the success of this bogus narrative, prosecutors, cops, and the citizenry are overwhelmingly convinced that a woman’s overriding impulse is to punch herself in the face a few times, chain herself in an underground bunker, and plead with innocent male passers-by to let her service them. Gentlemen that they are, the men reluctantly comply. Once her slutty objective is accomplished, the ‘victim’s’ natural feminine depravity kicks in, whereupon she compulsively makes a false rape accusation. It’s as simple as that!

Here the faint of heart should avert their eyes, because we now allude to the repellent story of just such a case. This particular atrocity, gothically dubbed the “Dungeon Rapes” to titillate pornsick media consumers, occurred in the US, but it perfectly illustrates the juridical savagery of this “culture of scepticism.”

To wit: Convicted child rapist builds secret underground bunker. Convicted child rapist serially abducts two 17-year-old girls, duct-tapes them in the bunker, savages them, and leaves them to suffocate to death in the airless room. At the trial, convicted child rapist claims the “sex” was “consensual.” He is acquitted on insufficient evidence, and, of course, “smiled as he was escorted from the court.”

The “sex” was “consensual.” The chicks were just sluts who wanted drugs. The convicted child rapist built his sleazy underground rape room for innocent romantic getaways. Why not?

The “culture of scepticism” would have us believe that this kind of prevaricating-slut scenario takes place in all but 5.6% of the 12,000 annual reported rapes in the UK.

Quoth The Guardian:

Rape is unique because in no other crimes were victims subject to such scrutiny in court or was the defendant so likely to claim the victim had consented to the attack. Between half and two-thirds of all cases are dropped before they come to court.

How is this possible?

Naturally, I have a theory which is mine. It has two parts. Here they are. But be forewarned. In Part 1 I’m going to go slightly Dworkin on your ass and blame it on porn. Specifically BDSM. Even so, please do not write in and lecture me on how ‘liberating’ your groovy BDSM ‘lifestyle’ is. Believe me, I’ve heard all the arguments, and believe me, they are all asinine. Please, just get some help.

But I digress.

To continue, this “culture of scepticism” crap actually makes perfect sense. Why shouldn’t juries believe that women enjoy abuse? The mainstreaming of sadomasochistic porn into the everyday onslaught of media imagery — advertising, fashion, TV shows, video games, garden-variety Hollywood movies, music videos, email spam, et al — has made the improbable equation, “sex + violent dominance = pleasure,” seem perfectly accurate and perfectly reasonable.

Note, if you don’t mind, that this thinking is insane. Pornography, particularly the S&M genus, is the graphic representation of the violent oppression of half the human race. It degrades the whole species because it has normalized the fetishization of suffering to the extent that convicted child rapists may, with the blessing of a jury of their peers, routinely saunter away smiling after brutalizing teenagers in their goddam underground bunkers.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: If women were not systemically oppressed, pornography could not exist. In a post-patriarchal society, free of the degrading paradigm of dominance and submission, pictures of people fucking would have all the prurient allure of a podiatrist appointment. It is the rape-based degradation to which consumers of pornography respond, dum-dum!

But I digress.

The remaining part of my theory is that the populus is so desperately invested in patriarchy that they are unwilling, even in the interest of justice, to part with one of its primary cornerstones: the slut class. Patriarchy depends on the slut class to serve as the receptacle for its pornsick incontinence. A slut class naturally implies a good-girl class, from whose virginal ranks the privileged male selects his unpaid housekeeper/fetus incubator/childcare worker. It naturally follows that if you go around convicting rapists, you diminish the she-was-asking-for-it slut class, which in turn, as distinctions between the two become more and more nebulous, diminishes the good-girl class. See, convicting rapists has the undesirable side effect of making women a bit more human.

You know, if I were a little more on the ball this morning, I might dip a querulous toe into the argument that society will never stand for the eradication of rape. Such success as capitalism enjoys is largely based on the wide availability of unpaid domestic labor created out of the sex class. Which sex class could not exist if women were not rapeable. Can you dig it? The global economy would collapse without rape.

Have a nice day.

I can see where porn/BDSM/Rape fantasies may certainly lead to the culture of skepticism - but do they necessarily cause a culture of Rape? I know of fully sex-positive, woman-loving people in the arena that are all for Rape fantasies and BDSM because they make a very clear distinction on the line of consent being the difference between alternative sex and violent degradation. Among them: Tristan Taormino, and Dan Savage. Is the line of consent still too hard of a concept for people to grasp? Are we not advanced that far as society yet? Is there a way to surpass the culture of skepticism and still incorporate BDSM and Rape fantasies into willing participant's sex lives?

Monday, April 23, 2007

how sad

Post Secret

Culture of Domination

"It takes a disconnect to enable or bystand distruction. The same disconnect sustains ignorance that the traumatization of children will shape their values and motivations for generations."

This video shows images along with narration of how cultures perpetuate ideals of domination, and how people are inherently hurt by these systems. It's pretty impressive.


Apparently a school newspaper newspaper in Canada thought Rape was funny enough to be included in their April Fools edition.

Didn't they learn from the uproar over Conneticut State's "satirical" editorial "Rape Only Hurts If You Fight It"?

Misogyny, masculinity and mass murder

A Volatile Young Man, Humiliation and a Gun
By Bob Herbert
The New York Times

Thursday 19 April 2007

"God I can't wait till I can kill you people."
- A message on the Web site of the Columbine killer Eric Harris.

In the predawn hours of Monday, Aug. 1, 1966, Charles Whitman, a former marine and Eagle Scout in Austin, Tex., stabbed his wife to death in their bed. The night before he had driven to his mother's apartment in another part of town and killed her.

Later that Monday morning, Whitman gathered together food, water, a supply of ammunition, two rifles, a couple of pistols, a carbine and a shotgun and climbed the landmark 30-story tower on the campus of the University of Texas.

Beneath a blazing sun, with temperatures headed toward the mid-90s, Whitman opened fire. His first target was a pregnant teenager. Over the next 80 or so minutes he killed 14 people and wounded more than 30 others before being shot to death by the police.

More than four decades later we still profess to be baffled at the periodic eruption of murderous violence in places we perceive as safe havens. We look on aghast, as if the devil himself had appeared from out of nowhere. This time it was 32 innocents slaughtered on the campus of Virginia Tech. How could it have happened? We behave as if it was all so inexplicable.

But a close look at the patterns of murderous violence in the U.S. reveals some remarkable consistencies, wherever the individual atrocities may have occurred. In case after case, decade after decade, the killers have been shown to be young men riddled with shame and humiliation, often bitterly misogynistic and homophobic, who have decided that the way to assert their faltering sense of manhood and get the respect they have been denied is to go out and shoot somebody.

Dr. James Gilligan, who has spent many years studying violence as a prison psychiatrist in Massachusetts, and as a professor at Harvard and now at N.Y.U., believes that some debilitating combination of misogyny and homophobia is a "central component" in much, if not most, of the worst forms of violence in this country.

"What I've concluded from decades of working with murderers and rapists and every kind of violent criminal," he said, "is that an underlying factor that is virtually always present to one degree or another is a feeling that one has to prove one's manhood, and that the way to do that, to gain the respect that has been lost, is to commit a violent act."

Violence is commonly resorted to as the antidote to the disturbing emotions raised by the widespread hostility toward women in our society and the pathological fear of so many men that they aren't quite tough enough, masculine enough - in short, that they might have homosexual tendencies.

In a culture that is relentless in equating violence with masculinity, "it is tremendously tempting," said Dr. Gilligan, "to use violence as a means of trying to shore up one's sense of masculine self-esteem."

The Virginia Tech killer, Cho Seung-Hui, was reported to have stalked female classmates and to have leaned under tables to take inappropriate photos of women. A former roommate told CNN that Mr. Cho once claimed to have seen "promiscuity" when he looked into the eyes of a woman on campus.

Charles Whitman was often portrayed as the sunny all-American boy. But he had been court-martialed in the Marines, was struggling as a college student and apparently had been suffering from depression. He told a psychiatrist that he absolutely hated his father, but he started his murderous spree by killing his wife and his mother.

Sunday, April 22, 2007


I was rocking out to this song and looked up the lyrics to sing along. It's not quite as fun a song as the dance music would suggest...

Nelly Furtado "Explode"

Vera's face burnt as a memory of bedroom fun
With a ligther and some hairspray
Smoking in the girls' room
Not worse than Shelley's rape behind the McDonald's
By a man she thought was fine, didn't tell anybody
Or maybe back then we just thought that she was getting some

Now we look back and see that she didn't know how
We never thought that we'd get caught up
Stuck in the teenage waste

As we explode

Then getting drunk in the bushes by the road outside the Kmart
Rolling around in them to see if you would get prickled
Slip the acid on your tongue rooftop shopping mall parkade
We couldn't get enough

Then count the stars and the ten million woes
Just you and the universe judging each other
We never knew that we'd get caught up
Stuck in the teenage waste

As we explode

As we let go

It's a fight, it's a fight and you finally belong
Got a shiner now and it's more than a battle scar
More than a battle scar, such a good, good story to tell
At lunch break, lunch break, lunch break, lunch break
Such a good, good story to tell

You bully, you break, you bully, you break
You fake, you fake, you fake, you fake
You smoke, you toke, you want, you flaunt, you hit it and you're in it and it's spinning

And it's wild
We never thought that we'd get caught up
Stuck in the teenage waste

As we explode

As we let go

We're counting the stars
We're counting the stars
We're gonna go far, we're gonna go far
We're counting the stars, we're counting the stars
We're not very far, we're not very far

And it's you and me in the open air
It's truth or dare, we don't care
We're counting the stars, we're counting the stars, we're counting the stars, we're counting the stars

Friday, April 20, 2007

Guess this ad

A woman with literally an entire highway going through her vagina...what could this be advertising (aside from objectification, gang rape, violence, women as passive recepticles...)

Can't guess? It's here along with another "less clear" ad for the same product...

Couture fantasy gang-rape

To sell clothes, Dolce & Gabbana show a dead woman being dragged away by a naked man...

...and one of an impending gang-rape

To be fair, D&G thinks male gang-rape is high fashion too.

Violence is sexy

These lovely representations of violence against women are from a fashion photo shoot on America's Next Top Model (you know, with Tyra Banks, the self-empowered, superwoman, lingerie model). They - along with the comments made by the judges about the photos are listed here. Some of my favorites:

Guest Judge Photographer Mike Rosenthal: Even though she doesn't look dead, I think she still came up with a great picture.

Nigel: The look on your face is just extraordinary. Very beautiful and dead.

Miss J: What's great about this is that you can also look beautiful in death.

Nigel: It's a great shot. Death becomes you, young lady.

Miss J: These are broken-down dolls. These are busted up, broken-down dolls, marionettes.

Justin Timberlake

In shedding the boy band label, Justin seems to be toying with the line between edgy sex and violent abuse - fine line that it is...

SexyBack video with a mutual espionage and a fairly forceful sexual encounter. I can't quite put my finger on what exactly makes me uncomfortable, but the stalking (on both parts) and borderline violent sexual encounter just don't sit right)

In What Goes Around Justin makes a shortfilm style video in which he and Scarlett Johansson are a new couple. Take note of the gender roles, expressions of dominance, violence, and sense of justification when she dies in a fiery car crash after kissing another guy.

Playing with Rape

An action figure of "Rapist #1" from the movie Grindhouse...

Rape Crisis Scotland has launched a campaign to ban a t-shirt sold by ASDA which said "if at first you don't succeed, buy her another beer." Drug facilitated rape...funny.

Commodified body-parts

Fairly self-explainatory. Women's bodies are for sale - piece by piece. Also - while the body parts are naked, and sexually explicit, they are also a joke. Pretty much disenfranchised all the way around...

Be the next Pussycat Doll

female empowerment

Jessi Klein considers "girl power" empowerment


Spring of 2007 at Northeastern University I went about creating a project exploring the elements that come together - especially on college campuses - to create and promote a culture of Rape. In doing this, I couldn't help but get carried away with all the examples of popular culture that are blatantly racist, sexist, homophobic, objectifying - and considered harmless, or worse, entertaining. My vision is for this blog to be a forum to confront these images. We must not allow the Rape culture to go unchallenged.